Last night I discovered Jenny Cipoletti's (@margoandme) beautiful Instagram account. Given that she has nearly 260,000 followers, I'm clearly late to the game. Turns out she's also in Italy at the moment.
As soon as I saw her feed I was overwhelmed by how beautiful her pictures were - the lighting, the composition, the colors - and how perfectly curated her feed seemed to be. Not to mention how beautiful she is in all of her pictures - her hair, her look, her style. While I felt inspired by her work, I also felt a pang of inadequacy. Why can't I get my pictures to turn out as great? Why don't I look this great while I travel the world? Why am I not that talented?
I'm usually so in awe of the amazing travel photos that I see on Instagram, but there are definitely times (especially when I'm having a rough day or feeling insecure) when my envy becomes unhealthy and I begin to question why my life can't be as amazing as what I see when I scroll through my feed. I'm sure we've all experienced that before. And for a moment, we let ourselves indulge in that negativity.
But, not to long ago, I saw a post by Hildegunn Taipale (@hilvees) who beautifully dispelled the myth that her life is perfect, despite what it may seem on Instagram. The traveler, who globe trots with her equally Insta-famous husband, wrote...
"I've said it before but I'll just remind whoever still thinks we travel 365 days a year, have a perfect life with a perfect marriage and only good, exciting days filled with adventure and nice things... 😂 we have bad days like everyone else, boring days, we work/study like everyone else, we daily need God's grace in our marriage and I don't always look like this hahah. We are average people with ups and downs just like you ;)"
I really appreciated her honesty and keep that in mind whenever that self-doubt starts to rear its head.
Remember that from the outside anything can look perfect. The energy you'll spend focusing on someone else's life is better spent focusing on your own. Do things for yourself and not in comparison to those around you - even the ones you admire and take inspiration from - because other people's success does not diminish or define yours. What matters most is chasing your dreams and working hard at what you've set out to do. All you can do is try your best. In the end, that should be what makes you truly happy, regardless of whether you share that on social media or not.
For me, Jenny's account will definitely not be the last that fills me with both inspiration and envy. With all the amazing content creators out there, it's bound to happen to all of us again and again. And that's great because, with a healthy perspective, it will push our creativity to the next level.